Comments: 26

Scared of the Big C

This is so me.

The commitment-phobe
She’s been dating you for six months. And yet she balks when you mention commitment. Yes to makeout sessions, no to pet names. Yes to sex, no to affection. You’re together, you’re not together, you’re not really sure. Your friends want to know what’s up and you do too. She doesn’t like labels. She doesn’t like commitment. Maybe she doesn’t like you.
- excerpt from “Dating in Vain” (PDI Super, 2/12/2005)

The writer might as well have used my name instead of the pronoun she. Ooh, let’s do that!

Nikki’s been dating you for six months. And yet Nikki balks when you mention commitment. Yes to makeout sessions, no to pet names. Yes to sex, no to affection. You’re together, you’re not together, you’re not really sure. Your friends want to know what’s up and you do too. Nikki doesn’t like labels. Nikki doesn’t like commitment. Maybe Nikki doesn’t like you.

LOL. Or maybe I just need to meet the right guy. Maybe then I’d say yes to both makeout sessions and pet names :-P

25 Mar 2005 Relationships

26 Comments

    • izza 3/25/05 @ 12:58

    • Don’t worry, Nikki, I’m sure a lot of guys are commitment-phobes, too! They’ll be lucky to have you! :D LOL

    • Nikki 3/25/05 @ 13:01

    • That’s what I thought, too. But why does it seem like everyone wants to be cheesy and in love these days? Whatever happened to just having fun? Where are the players when you need them? LOL

    • izza 3/25/05 @ 13:10

    • Yeah, we’re too young to be thinking long-term! And what’s up with all the theme songs and the mush and the *gasp* monthsaries??? *faints* Something’s seriously wrong here! LOL O_o

    • Nikki 3/25/05 @ 13:26

    • What I need is an un-boyfriend!

      WANTED: Un-boyfriend
      Cute (but not too cute), tall male. 20-24 yrs. old. Matalinong gago. Medyo bastos. Hates sappy love songs as much as I do. Will kiss me on the first date. Will make out with me on our third date. Will be touchy but not clingy. Will puke with me at the thought of monthsaries. Will give me space. Will not tell me he loves me (or expect me to tell him I love him) until after we’ve been dating for a long, long time.

    • izza 3/25/05 @ 13:41

    • OMG you are SUCH a biatch! LOL But, yeah, I guess that would be the best guy for you… naughty girl. tsktsktsk.

    • Nikki 3/25/05 @ 13:45

    • Oh, like you’re so holy! *rolls eyes* Pareho lang naman tayong hindi dalagang pilipina LOL. It’s why we get along so well, skank!

    • izza 3/25/05 @ 13:50

    • Wha– Who? Me? You must have me confused with someone else. *whistles innocently*

    • Nikki 3/25/05 @ 13:56

    • Are you telling me that it’s finally happened? You’ve crossed over to the dark (or should I say, sickeningly bright and sunny) side?! Don’t tell me you’ve embraced the corn! *shudders*

    • izza 3/25/05 @ 13:59

    • Not yet. Close. Getting there. But I’m NOT embracing the corn! Nevah! Whack me on the head when I get too mushy, please! Besides, I want my cake, not corn! And I still do enjoy fooling around with my man-slaves. ;)

    • Nikki 3/25/05 @ 14:11

    • Oh, I’m definitely gonna hit you over the head with a frying pan if you ever reach the “corning” point!

    • izza 3/25/05 @ 14:13

    • Aww *hugs you* I’m so glad you’re my un-bestfriend!!! *bawls* ROFL

    • pots 3/25/05 @ 22:23

    • =))

      Nagulat ako a. 12 comments in a span of 1.5 hours, walang sinabi ung iba a, saya!

      Commitment-phobes pala a… heheh. So sa opinion niyo kelan ba ung time na dapat mag-isip nang long-term? Anong age niyo ba balak magpakasal? (kung may balak kayo that is :P )

    • Nikki 3/26/05 @ 09:27

    • Elo, Eugene! Tama bang i-mention ang word na “kasal” sa commitment-phobe?! Joke hehe! Seriously, I do plan to get married someday, but that would be after I’ve thoroughly enjoyed my single life, if you know what I mean ;) Siguro 28-30. Actually kung hindi lang humihirap magka-anak habang tumatanda, kahit older pa sana hehe :P Pero right now, sobrang wala pa talaga sa isip ko ‘yan! Ang bata-bata pa natin to be thinking of settling down. Scary. We should stop talking about marriage. Kasi at the moment, yung commitment-phobia ko is focused more on all the mush and potential clinginess that comes with being someone’s girlfriend, rather than actual long-term commitment. At this point, I really just wanna have fun. Man-slaves, anyone?

    • marco 3/26/05 @ 13:40

    • astig a ginawang chat room ang comments. ^^;

      grabe pots ang bilis mo kasal na pala kagad iniisip mo o.O hmm… kailangan ba talagang may ideal age para magpakasal… sa akin kasi ala akong iniisip na age magpakasal e… basta kung kelan man yon mangyayari e di mangyari hehe. :p

    • pots 3/26/05 @ 20:56

    • Errr… hindi ba nagtanong lang ako? -_-a Curious lang sa sagot dun ng mga admitted commitment-phobes :P

      Hmm… naalala ko bibilan ko nga pala ate ko ng “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” /heh. Gusto raw niya basahin e, semi-popular book raw recently -_-a

    • izza 3/27/05 @ 14:22

    • marco, it’s easy for you to say na wala kang ideal marrying age kasi lalaki ka eh. :) for girls kasi, habang tumatanda nagdedegrade na ang quality ng eggs, (tama ba namang singitan ng biology? hahaha) so siguro before 30 din yung sasabihin ko. :)

    • Nikki 3/28/05 @ 08:13

    • Yeah, what Chrissa said! LOL. Stupid eggs and their stupid “shelf-life” *grumbles* :P

    • pots 3/28/05 @ 08:29

    • So yung mga eggs niyo pala naglilimit ng pag-enjoy ng single life niyo? Awww.. malas naman, hindi pwedeng maging commitment-free forever :P

      —–

      Wow, ngayon ko lang napansin ung sideblog a (kaya eto, side comments hehe)

      Bakit ung post tungkol sa commenting spree e March 24, kung ung post kung san nagcomment e March 25??? Meron kang… foresight? /heh

      “Metaphysical conversation with my mom”? hmm… tindi a, ano kaya un?

    • Nikki 3/28/05 @ 09:26

    • Eugene, oo nga e, mali yung date sa sideblog. I tried to do something about it pero mukhang may bug dun sa timezones setting hehe :P

      Yup, my mom & I talked metaphysics over breakfast. Things like reincarnation (that we both believe in), the “eternal fire” concept of hell (that we both think is completely stupid and illogical), and what happens when people die (my mom has a clear view on this, pero ako, I’m still deciding what I want to believe) :)

    • pots 3/28/05 @ 18:31

    • “Clear view of this”? Nakita na niya? =)) Joke! :P

      Clear view? Ano ba basis niya at naging clear un? (O nakita na nga niya? XD)

    • Nikki 3/28/05 @ 21:34

    • What I mean is, her idea of what happens when a person dies is much more detailed than mine. Napag-isipan na nya, ako kasi ‘di pa masyado hehe :)

    • pots 3/28/05 @ 22:46

    • Teka, kala ko ba pareho kayong naniniwala sa reincarnation? Hindi ba related na un sa kung anong mangyayari pag namatay ang isang tao? -_-a

    • Nikki 3/29/05 @ 09:03

    • Yup, we both believe that souls get reborn, pero sya may details na :) Hehe, medyo mahirap atang pag-usapan ‘to dito. We’re majorly digressing hehe :P Usap na lang tayo the next time we see each other, if you’re really interested :)

    • katherine 4/5/05 @ 04:05

    • Hehehe.. daming comments ah… XD

      Nikki summer na~~! Masaya maghunt ng summer flings! ;)

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